I know HIM. I've sat by and quietly watch him lose his self identity in his current relationship. Sometimes, our lives can become so centered around the person we are in relationship with and it causes us forget those things (and people) that WE actually enjoy in an effort to try and please someone else. Suddenly we begin doing things that we never done before (not in a growing positive way, but in a submissive way)
A member of my church wrote on Facebook that "Sabotage will have you disconnect and destroy relationships you honestly weren't designed to live without. It will whisper in your ear and misconstrue words to sound like an attack. It will create a spiral and have you build a case against people that you are called to 'do life' with. Then pride will allow you to tie your desolation in an area to the one you disconnected from. Shut up. You need people. AND people need you." (LaTia Powell)
As women, I wish we were more mature. More secure. More in tuned to the spirit.
Not everyone is after your mate. I was called to be a support system, a source of encouragement, an accountability partner and YES, a friend. NOT his best friend, that belongs to the wife. We "Christians" spend so much time focused on unhealthy and TOXIC soul ties, that we often forget there are REALLY instances in the bible where healthy soul ties (deep friendships) were maintained. I don't have to Bible thump you, so I can direct you to look for yourself. Check out I Samuel 18:1, "The Soul of Jonathan was knit with the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul". There is an example of a healthy soul tie between Jonathan and David....a godly friendship that brought a great blessing to them BOTH. A healthy soul tie enhances your life, it makes you a better person, and the relationship provides strength and support. Notice.....nothing sexual is even in this equation. We are too busy stuck on what may or may NOT have happened in the past.......to realize that maybe, just MAYBE.....that person actually WAS sent by God.
Don't get me wrong. I understand clearly that some things are not meant to last forever. There comes a time when you have to let some friendships go, and I have. But once you get to a point in life where you've found your inner circle, "your people", the people that love you unconditionally and pray for you on a regular basis....isn't THAT worth fighting for??
